“Bro, My Wife is Gonna Wake up Looking Hot Everyday”

I still remember the conversation.

It was in a van, somewhere near Spokane, WA.

At the time, I had been married for about 10 years.

The van was full of single guys – confidently talking about what they thought marriage would be like.

I got the sense from one guy that he was talking about a “Stepford Wife” – a perfectly beautiful, submissive housewife who is actually a robot.

I couldn’t help myself.

I felt obligated to burst his bubble.

“Dude, your wife is gonna wake up somedays with ratty hair, crusty eyes, drool stains on her face, breath like dragon vomit… and she’ll be wearing comfy, flannel full-body-coverage pajamas.”

He looked stunned. Then indignant.

“No way bro! My wife is gonna wake up looking hot everyday…”

So funny.

And impossible.

Nobody wakes up looking hot everyday.

Even supermodels have dragon-vomit breath in the morning.

Here’s what I’m saying: nobody’s perfect.

Nobody.

You included (you know that’s true – you have empirical evidence).

Since you’re not perfect, you need grace.

That’s true for everyone else too – including your spouse (who doesn’t wake up looking hot everyday).

Don’t expect the impossible from your spouse.

Love them, flaws and all. Give them grace – they need it.

And so do you.