Giving honor adds value.
Dishonor devalues.
The Bible says God has crowned mankind with “glory and honor” (Psalm 8.5).
Our job isn’t to chip away at the honor/worth/value/significance of others.
Our job is to restore and build-up—to give value and honor.
We’re the building team, not the demolition crew.
We’re value adders, not a value diminishers.
We add, not subtract.
We give value.
We build.
We bless.
We honor…
And we do it up big.
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If you only honor “up” (authority figures, bosses, people who are above you), that’s not really honor… that’s called brown-nosing.
Yes—we believe in honoring up, but it can’t stop there.
We honor up, we honor down, we honor all around.
Another way to think about honoring is “to give dignity”.
Giving dignity is particularly important when honoring those who are in a lower place than you.
Perhaps the hardest “honor pill” to swallow is honoring all around…
Honoring all around means honoring those who are in the same boat as you are, your friends, your peers… the competition.
When you think of honor, remember: up, down, all around.
Missing honor in some direction?
Here’s a quick diagnosis:
If you can’t honor up, you’re struggling with authority issues.
If you can’t honor down, you’re a self-important, elitist snob.
If you can’t honor all around, your out-of-control competitiveness will eventually cause you to be friendless.
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What’s the equation for giving honor?
How much should I give, and in proportion to what?
Someone’s deservingness?
Honor-worthiness?
Meritoriousness?
No.
All you have to do is look inside yourself.
Do you want to be devalued, diminished, dishonored, dismissed, disrespected,… “dissed”?
Or do you want to be valued, recognized, honored, accepted, respected, and commended?
Nobody wants to be dissed.
So, here’s the answer—the equation for giving honor:
“Give each other more honor that you want for yourselves.” (Romans 12.10 NCV)
Honor. Do it up big—more than you want for yourself!
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As long as you’re causing injury to others, you’re winning.
You get points for taking shots and hitting someone else.
The goal: advance yourself and harm, maim, or eliminate the competition.
That’s how video games work.
In real life, it’s the opposite of video games.
Causing injury to others? You’re losing.
There’s no points for for taking shots at someone else. In fact, it causes your value to diminish.
In real life, the goal is to advance others—to build, bless, encourage and give honor freely.
“Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.” (Philippians 2.3, 4 MSG)
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Honor…
Everyone wants some.
Few give it away.
Here’s what the Bible has to say about it:
“Take delight in honoring each other.” (Romans 12.10 NLT)
Another line from the song “Give it Away” says, “Realize I don’t want to be a miser.”
Don’t be an honor miser.
Give it away.
Give it away.
Give it away now.
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My wife is the master of the conversation switcheroo.
We’re talking about one thing—and without notice she’s saying something that makes absolutely no sense at all with the previous stream of thought.
I usually look confused while I’m trying to figure out what’s going on.
Eventually, I say: “Wait, new thought?”
She thinks about it and says, “Oh, yeah. Of course. Now I’m talking about…”
As long as my mind is on the previous stream of thought, the new thought is just gibberish to me.
I have to let go of the previous conversation in order to engage in the new one.
Kinda like my wife, God is the master of the switcheroo.
He wants to introduce some new thoughts and ideas to us…
“Let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.” (Ephesians 4.23 NLT)
Here’s the deal: in order to receive the new thought, we must let go of the previous one.
As long as we’re holding on to the previous stream of though, attitude, or internal conversation—the new one (the God-thought) will just be gibberish to us.
If stuff isn’t making a whole lot of sense in your life right now, maybe it’s time to say: “Wait, new thought?”
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Any number of labels can be part of your identity…
American
Conservative
Liberal
Country Boy
City Girl
Spender
Saver
Athlete
Artist
Student
Worker
Retiree
Teenager
Senior Citizen
Christ Follower
The question is, who are you first?
There are some thoughts, attitudes, and actions that technically make you a “good__________” (fill in the blank with a label) but just don’t fit in the life of a Christ Follower.
Are you a__________first, or are you a Christ Follower first?
I’d rather be a good Follower of Christ—even if that means sometimes I’m not that great of a__________.
Paul wrote to the Philippian Christians, “Above all, you must live as citizens of heaven conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ (Philippians 1.27 NLT).
Philippi was a Roman colony and the people there possessed Roman citizenship.
Although Philippi was far from Rome, these Philippian Roman citizens never forgot that they were Romans. They spoke the language, wore the clothing, and lived under Roman law—with all its rights and privileges.
Paul was saying, “You and I know full well the privileges and responsibilities of being a Roman citizen. Even here in Philippi, so many miles from Rome, we must live and act as a Roman does. Well then… remember that you have an even higher duty—wherever you are, you must first live as citizens of Heaven.”
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Our brains don’t like gaps in information.
We’re not comfortable with things unknown…
And so we speculate. We fill in the gaps ourselves. We make stuff up.
I’ve done this often with songs.
Some lyrics are difficult to understand, and my brain just makes a guess.
What a surprise when I eventually read the actual lyrics years later!
My first reaction is to disagree—someone else must be wrong (certainly not me).
The truth is, my thinking is totally capable of being wrong, and often. Ridiculously wrong.
So is yours.
Which is why we need to be open to new thoughts—learning and being corrected.
“Don’t try to read between the lines or look for hidden meanings…” (2 Corinthians 1.13 MSG)
What a great reminder: our minds think wrong thoughts—we speculate incorrectly, we put stuff between the lines that doesn’t actually belong there.
Our thoughts need to be renewed.
Our brains can’t always be trusted.
Here’s the good news: God doesn’t lie and his Word tells us the truth.
So this is what we do: “We take every thought captive so that it is obedient to Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10.5)
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Remember those old cliché arguments?
The ones where you begged your parents for something and defended your cause by describing how everyone you know already has that thing or gets to do that thing…
Your parents shot back with: “Oh, everybody’s doing that, huh? I suppose if everybody jumped off a bridge, you’d do it too?”
This line of reasoning never inspired me as a kid.
It didn’t lift my spirits, cause me to dream bigger, or envision new possibilities.
These days, however, I’m feeling pretty inspired by it (not because my daughter wants to watch Hannah Montana and tells me how all her friends get to watch it).
I’m becoming more and more aware that the herd doesn’t always move in the right direction.
I’ve come to realize: “group think” often stinks.
The Bible says “Do not be shaped by this world; instead be changed within by a new way of thinking.” (Romans 12.2 NCV)
We don’t need more stinkin group thinkin.
We need to be changed within; we need a new way of thinking.
I love this reminder God gave to Isaiah during a particularly difficult time…
The Lord has given me a strong warning not to think like everyone else does. He said, “Don’t call everything a conspiracy, like they do, and don’t live in dread of what frightens them.” (Isaiah 8.11, 12)
Through Jesus, we’ve been made new.
We’re a new creation—the old is gone and the new has come…
This includes our minds, our thinking.
We have a new mind—the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2.16, Philippians 2.5).
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Our hearts are like a file cabinet—and our belief system is stored there.
Most of our subconscious, controlling beliefs are established (filed away in our hearts) by the time we are 8 years old.
These controlling beliefs were “caught” not “taught”.
They determine our reactions and behavior—our response to the circumstances of life.
With our rational mind, we can say “I’m never going to behave like that…” but it’s the belief system in our heart that actually determines how we behave.
Author and psychologist Jonathan Haidt uses the analogy of an elephant and the rider…
The emotional side (heart) is the Elephant and the rational side is the Rider. Perched on the Elephant, the Rider holds the reins and seems to be the leader. But the Rider’s control is precarious because he is so small compared to the Elephant. Anytime the six-ton Elephant and the Rider disagree about which direction to go, the Rider is going to lose—he is completely overmatched by the size, strength, and will of the Elephant.
The heart “determines the course” of our lives (Proverbs 4.23 NLT).
If our heart determines the course of our lives—the question must be asked…
Can our hearts be changed?
Can the old files be replaced?
Can a new controlling belief system be established?
We believe that God makes us new. We believe He gives us a new heart.
“I will give you a new heart and I will put a new spirit in you.” (Ezekiel 36.26 NLT)
So, the answer is: yes, our hearts can be changed and the old files can be replaced!
We’ve been given a new heart, a new file cabinet—the opportunity to believe and respond differently.
Unfortunately, most of us start putting the same old crap in the brand new file cabinet…
We reach for the familiar.
We go to our default—those old beliefs that filled our old hearts and controlled our lives.
Jesus said, “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart…” (Luke 6.45).
Our hearts are a treasury—a storage place.
From what we store in our hearts, our lives will produce.
Don’t store the same old small, weak, insecure, fearful, anxious, greedy, selfish, untrusting beliefs.
You have a new heart, a treasury—a brand new file cabinet.
Fill it with a new belief system, one that matches what God says about you.
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